Living Life Out of Balance

During these hectic days, 80% of people live life out of balance, or in a state of homeostasis.

These individuals live year after year with the same stressful and fearful thoughts and expect that, one day, their lives will change and that things will be different-they’ll be healed!

Unfortunately, their hopes are unfounded, and I’ll tell you why.

If people have the same fearful, sad, negative, depressed, angry, or anxiety-driven thoughts, their choices will be the same, producing the same behaviour, experiences, and emotions. Their minds react by “circling back” to the same original thoughts, thus leading them back to their same stressful lives.

Albert Einstein, the brilliant and most influential physicist of the 20th century, offered the best suggestion on how to change and heal the mind. Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

If people want to change and to heal themselves, they need to become somebody else to become different. They need to change their mindset, or their way of thinking and their opinions.

There are many techniques that can be used for changing one’s mindset. These include mindfulness meditation, hypnosis, and the emotional freedom technique .

Negative thoughts cause the release of the stress hormone, cortisol. This harmful hormone can make you sick.

Stress in humans can be induced just by one fearful, stressful thought. When you have that single negative thought, and you believe it, you become out of balance within minutes, even if that particular thought is just in your imagination and not at all true.

What’s wrong with us humans? Wild animals handle stress differently than we do. If we were animals-zebras or deer, for example-we’d be able to forget about stressful events once the stressful event is over. If a zebra survives a lion’s attack, it will forget the stressor (the lion) and the associated stress response (cortisol) almost immediately after the attack and will revert to its normal state (homeostasis). Sadly, however, it may take some people hours, days, months, or even years, to stop a stress response.

When people have chronic stress, their genes can undergo dysregulation, which ultimately causes diseases. People are not programmed to live stressful lives on a long-term basis; this is the most harmful form of stress.

If thoughts can make you sick, is it possible that thoughts can also make you well? Can changing your mindset heal you? Yes, to both questions.

Life may be a balancing act, but, with practice, you can master it. Try using one of the techniques mentioned earlier to change your mindset, and live your life happily and healthfully-in balance.

Wisdom of the Tao – Your Life Makes a Difference

The Tao Te Ching is an ancient Chinese text on the nature of existence. According to legend Lao-Tzu wrote this book of wisdom. It has been translated more than any other volume, except for the Bible.

The creative Source of the universe flows around you and through you. Be flexible and open to all possibilities. Release your need to be right. Be willing either to resolve your daily challenges or to resist pushing against them. When you achieve flexibility, you become stronger and more successful.

Appreciate what you have and let go of the need to accumulate more.

From an inner perspective, you recognize your infinite nature. You realize that you live in a temporary world of physical appearances. See the world beyond your senses and live with this conscious awareness. Relax and stop pressuring yourself to accumulate more. Be satisfied and enjoy peace and contentment.

Embrace silence and cultivate inner awareness.

Tao verse 56: “Those who know do not talk. Those who talk do not know.”

Those who feel compelled to talk and persuade are attached to their own point of view. They need to be right. Notice your own need to seek approval. Restrain your inclination to judge others and give unsolicited advice. Silent knowing is a place within you that cannot be communicated to another.

Choose thoughts that reflect your status as an empowered being.

The Source Energy that creates worlds flows through you. Practice conscious awareness of this Source Energy. Through mindfulness and meditation practice you cultivate your inner awareness. With consistent practice your creative energy grows. Tap into your creative energy and change the way you live.

You are not insignificant. You have a part in transforming the planet. Create a life vision that helps you focus your energy. Choose an area for your focus. A life vision helps you live with an inner conviction that your life matters.

Dr. Mary Beth Ford is the author of Wisdom from the Gardens-Life Lessons and creator of the CD Garden Wisdom-5 Ways to Grow in Life Balance and Joy. She specializes in the area of life balance, which she describes as balance between outer world and inner Self. In her work she shares five powerful garden lessons for living with balance and joy. Using nature images she offers us a new way of seeing ourselves and our world.

The Importance Of Getting Connected

Many of us grow up with unmet needs. This dissatisfaction can have far-reaching physical and psychological consequences for us and trying to get this connection from others, rather than learning to connect with ourselves can lead to many personal and relationship problems.

We created a huge gap within ourselves because of our self-abandonment. when we try to pull love from others. This feeling of vulnerability tends to push people away, the very reason why we end up feeling even more unloved.

When we accept full responsibility of our total psychological and emotional state, we are learning to love ourselves and we are opening the door for connecting with other people. Learning to bring out our love within and share it with others creates deep inner fulfillment.

When we are avoiding responsibility for our feelings, we will likely attract someone who is doing the same thing. Each partner hopes that the other will fill the black hole within. While they might seem to do this for each other for a short time, eventually each feels unloved and resentful, leading to relationship failure because of unmet expectations. We cannot fill up another person because we cannot even satisfy ourselves.

In my experience, sharing love with another who is also filled up with love and sharing it, is the most fulfilling and joyful experience in life. Unfortunately, I was able to share it with someone who was insatiable. We end up frustrated with each other and eventually broke up our marriage because we confused getting love with sharing love.

When we cannot connect with our own feelings, we may lose our capacity to feel compassion for others. When we have not learned how to manage our painful experiences, learn from them and move on, we may lose touch with our humanity. Life becomes pointless and boring. When we shut down ourselves, trying not to feel our loneliness and heartbreak, we also shut down our ability to feel love and joy which is a very sad way to live.

However, you can learn to shift from your denial of your painful feelings to embracing them and with a desire to learn to take good care of yourself and experience the deep joy of sharing your love with others.

What can be more beautiful than knowing how to form healthy relationships and establish deeper connections with those around us? What can be more powerful than looking at people around you whom you are kind, loving and helpful? What you give to them will reciprocate back to you.

People who are more connected and open to others have lower rates of anxiety depression. Social connectedness, therefore, generates a positive feedback of social, emotional and physical well-being.